Many faith traditions warn against pride or boasting, which often results in a fear of boasting or bragging. Unfortunately the fear of boasting can result in an individual to not show up or in other words hide. In an attempt to not boast, one can unintentionally hide skills and talents with important people, such as potential employers, or good friends. In an attempt to be modest, if not done in a moderate and healthy way can result in a person staying hidden or unknown. Not showing up in relationships authentically in this way results in not being seen or known and in lack of connection with others. Being seen, feeling known, connection with others are all basic human needs.

In addition, current research in mental health and human psychology point out that healthy self-esteem, sense of self-worth, and feelings of self-respect result from authentic pride. In sharing authentic pride, it is one way we can build and support this within ourselves. So, it is important not to boast and yet it is important to be seen, known, connect with others, maintain healthy self-esteem, sense of self-worth and self-respect. Where is the line between boasting, bragging or expressing hubristic pride and authentically sharing who we are and authentic pride?

Clearly the blanket statement of one “should not boast” requires clarification in an age where low self-esteem, self-worth and self-respect is rampant.